It Isn’t Working (again)
When goals don’t work
Be aware that there’s a lot of stuff going on trying to sabotage our dreams. Most of us have been told a lot of things about ourselves from a very early age. Other people have announced what we’re good at – and what we’re not good at – what we will be able to do and what we shouldn’t even contemplate doing with our lives. We’ve believed that and carry these self-limiting beliefs into adulthood.
As Mark Twain said, “whether you think you can or you think you can’t, either way you’re right.” It’s all in our heads. If we think we’re no good at sport, then our minds will look for evidence to support that belief – it will remember our failures. It will ignore the things we’ve done, such as winning a 100 metre race when we were younger or walking for miles on holiday or just all the physical things we do in a day keeping our lives together. Best advice I got? That little voice in the back of your head will tell you what you can’t do. Tell it to shut up! It’s your voice in your head – take control of it. And start by making it your biggest supporter, not your biggest knocker!
So, next time that voice tells you why you can’t do something, why you’re going to fail – STOP – challenge what it is saying. “Ok, so I didn’t run a half marathon last year, but if I start training now, I can do it” or “so, my last attempt to live alone didn’t work. I wasn’t ready. I am ready now.”
And don’t listen to anyone who says “well, you can try….” The word “try” is simply a pre-excuse for failure – “well, you tried.” As the great sage Yoda said “do or do not. There is no try.”